Preoccupation with philosophy, mindset, and “life hacks” is an insidious form of procrastination designed to distract us from two uncomfortable truths.
The first is that the only way to fix our problems is to take actual steps towards fixing our problems. Just as the way to write a book is to write a book, and the way to start working out is to start working out, the way to stop jerking off is to stop jerking off. Reading and thinking and planning is often worse than useless because it actually prevents action by making us feel as if we have already accomplished something when in reality we’ve just been wasting time.
The second uncomfortable truth is that there will never be a time in the future where our task will be any easier than it is right now. No one ever says, “I’ve had enough jerking off for one life; I’m satisfied.” For the desire for sex is insatiable. Indeed, the more you indulge, the stronger it gets; conversely, the less you indulge, the easier your desires are to manage.
“Ever fed, never satisfied; never fed, ever satisfied.”
Now, one doesn’t need to be perfect to get started. The chief danger in having an all-or-nothing attitude towards Nofap is that every setback gets blown way out of proportion. Imagine you are collecting firewood. Isn’t it inevitable that you will drop a few sticks? It would be strange if you didn’t. Does that mean all your effort is wasted? Of course not! And it is the same with Nofap.
It’s helpful to remember that feeling horny usually just means you’re bored. In the end, “sexual transmutation” is just a fancy term for doing something other than jerking off when you’re horny.